Truth: She will Save your Life

I like to think that if tomorrow I suddenly stopped breathing and fell over dead, somehow the world would stop spinning. Just for a moment. The foundation of the earth would tremble, just slightly, just a little, because I was gone. That if I died, people would cry, people would grieve, people would miss me everyday. And when I’m gone, I would leave behind a emptiness in people’s lives that can only be filled my laughter, my voice, my smile.

I like to imagine that me, little ol’me, actually matters to the world. That my tiny soul weaving in and out of crowds of 6 billion people, is actually significant to the ebb & flow of the world’s tide.

The rock-hard, heart-hitting truth is I will not make the world stop spinning. The world will not notice or care when my soul no longer roams this earth. My once beating heart, will be replaced by the thousands of newly beating hearts born into the world each day.

We are all desperate for some sort of significance, starving for some sense of worth. We are so hungry for value and we look for it in all the wrong places. In the end, it does not come from the things we accomplished or achieved or gained. If we die with everything in the world but have not loved another, have not invested in other people, poured out our hearts in the things that matter, what have we done with our lives?

Without love we are nothing but an element eroding on the surface of the earth, dust in the wind, clouds bouncing in the sky.

My life may not be essential to the foundation of the earth but if I love & invest in one person, maybe there will be someone who’s world will shake when I depart. Even if it is just one individual. Even if just one heart has trouble beating because I’m no longer here. I want to make myself count to just one person. In the end that’s all that matters. We don’t need to matter to the world, we simply need to matter to a few special, close to our heart people. 

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Today I find myself sick to my stomach full of lies from a world that does not care.

My heart infested, my mind toxic. Believing that my worth comes from people. Believing that my single-relationship status is a reflection of who I am. Believing that God isn’t really worthy of my trust. Believing that somehow I ought to be in control of making things happen & responsible for the salvation of people’s souls.

The lies have got my heart all tangled up in a giant knot of insecurity, worthlessness, doubt and fear. & it is not conducive to your life to live with you heart stuck in a knot.

All our thoughts of: I’m ugly. I’m worthless. No one will ever love me. God can’t be trusted. I must do this on my own. I don’t need grace. We hear these things so often. They become so ingrained in us, that we mistake them for what they truly are. False. Evil. Toxic. LIES.

Adolf Hitler’s words ring true: If you tell a big enough lie and tell it frequently enough, it will be believed.

Fed these lies over and over again, day in and day out, it is no surprise that we begin to fall for them. The crux of their façade tearing into us syllable by syllable, letter by letter. We believe them and before we can see the gleaning silver of their double edged sword and run fast in the other direction, they invade our veins. No longer a mere thought floating around our head but a cold, potent, fact. At worst, they become our mantra- the melody that plays it’s way through our head, guiding our decisions and ultimately eroding our soul.

It sounds dramatic perhaps but I warn you: Lies, they are dangerous- they infect & destroy all things good and beautiful. They distort your perception of the world, God and yourself. Leaving you broken & confused & feeling like nothing but damaged goods.

You try to combat these lies & the internal emptiness they create by filling your life with more. More people. More activities. More achievements. More opportunities. More exercise. More fun-filled Friday nights. More parties with people you’ve never met. But more is not enough. Your efforts just turn into one large pile stacked high with years of trying & striving & attempting & searching but never finding peace & satisfaction & joy. Where does it end?

As people have spoken into my life, I want to tell you, I need you to hear me:
It must end. You must be brave and say no more, not today, not ever. You cannot keep believing this mantra of lies that names you worthless & invaluable & undesirable.

But, dear, I can’t do it for you. It must be you. It must be you to tell those thoughts- all the ones you have believed so deeply for so long- tell them they are garbage & false & label them what they really are: Lies.

I know it isn’t easy. You’ve been programmed your whole life to believe them. Killing these thoughts, it feels like you are killing part of your self. It’s confusing. It’s painful. It’s scary. But without struggle, we will never triumph.

Start by identifying. Declare that what you once saw as truth & fact are actually damaging, dangerous and false.

Next, clothe yourself with rock-solid and beautiful truth. Go find Truth. Chase after her. Pursue her. Give up everything you have to get her. Run up the steps of her house, knock fiercely. Hug her tightly, apologize for neglecting her and tell her how much you have missed her. Invite her to come back and beg her to never leave your side again. Because Truth can save a life. It can bring healing to all the pain caused by the bitter things you believed about yourself and the world. It can redeem the hearts trained to know nothing else but falling short & never ever, being anything close to enough.

Because I dream of seeing a generation set free from lies. I long to see a people who walk in bold step with the Lord, covered by his truth & drowning in his grace. I promise you, Truth, she will save your life. Cherish her & seek after her always.

love, mikayla

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Scars (you were not created for this)

Her arm moved swiftly as she poured more ruby red ice tea into her glass cup, but in that quick, calculated movement I noticed them. I tried not to let my eyes linger, but I had to be sure. We were discussing matter of faith and theology, and I told myself to focus on the words currently tumbling out of her mouth, not the white scars painted across her wrist and forearm. Oh, but I did notice them. They were old and healing, but those discoloured marks cut into her skin were impossible to ignore.

This wasn’t the first time. I’ve noticed scars before- on wrists, on thighs, on forearms. Of girls I spent time with but didn’t really know. Girls that I’m sure never knew how I worried about and how much I cared about them. How dearly I desired to ask them of their story; ask them why the etched each scar into their beautiful bodies.

The scars say so much. Their red, white, and blue bruised colours are a collection of a thousand words carved into the skin, of emotions and questions they feel that cannot be expressed any other way.

The scars whisper to me: I’m hurting. I need to feel control over something. I have so much going on inside, can’t you see? Don’t you notice the pain I feel? Can’t you see that I’m hurting??

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At this moment, I am staring at my computer screen, clutching my coffee and glancing at the leather bible located beside me- trying to figure out where in the world I had intended to go with this post. And sitting here, turning over the thoughts in my head, I find only one question burning on the tip of my tongue. Maybe you have asked it to.

How can the promise of a good God who speaks of bringing “life to the full,” be true, when millions of people are stumbling through their days begging to know if life is worth living and if joy even exists?

I see people who know no other way to deal with their pain that to hurt themselves. I see people who dream of death, because it seems like a much better option than waking up to another day on this earth. I see people sitting against on bed, staring hard at the painted walls of their room, wondering how it is possible to feel so absolutely alone in a world so full of people.

It breaks my heart to learn of the hurt and loneliness and despair of so many.

We are not created to be like this- overwhelmed with pain to the point that we inflict it on ourselves or wonder about ending it all.

Something inside me screams at this: it is not right.
Lurking within in me is a fierce cry for justice.

The idea of justice in it’s truest form. Shalom. Defined as peace but the words means much more than peace. True Shalom is for things to be as they were meant to be. It is just to see a bird fly, because they were created to do so. It is just for a man and women to make love on their wedding night, because sex was created to be sacred between two people within the confines of marriage.

Thus, it is JUST to experience a full life, one consumed by joy. Because we were designed to be one with God- to know joy, laugher and peace in the days of our lives.

And I do see that it is possible for a good God to exist in all the messiness. Because we have been promised a beautiful life, but only, and there is no other way- only through His grace. Only through trading our definition of a good life to Him, and letting Him fill our life with beauty.

You, with the dark eyes that burst with hard emotion and every question you beg an answer to. You, yes you, with the forced smile that curls your lips upwards but doesn’t reach your eyes. You, that drags yourself out of bed each morning just hoping to make it through another day. You, that feels as if you are drowning under a sea of pain and loneliness. You, that screams at the silence or at God; CAN ANYONE SEE THAT I’M HURTING? To you: you were not created for this. You were not designed for this mess of pain and hurt and dissatisfaction. You don’t have to hurt yourself to keep the world from hurting you.

You must know, you must believe: That you were designed by a good God for a joy-filled life, abundant with all shapes and sizes of beauty. He shed His blood for you, so that you no longer have to bleed. For, “ye are bought at a price.” Let the blood that dripped from His wrists, wash away the blood that trickles from your beautiful scars.

On days where you can hardly see straight because it hurts and life doesn’t make sense and all you can think about is trying to find a way to deal with it all- on those days- remember the promise of a good God and a beautiful life.

This is life is worth living.

There is much joy to be found in it.

love, mikayla

You Just Are

“How are you really doing?” I dared to ask the question, uncertain if I even wanted to hear the answer.

“All want is to have him back, here with me..” She whispered quietly one night on a long, dark car ride back home.

My heart lurches some place unknown and unfamiliar. What to say?
Sorry he really wont be coming back or it's going to be okay or the bible promised... or I understand how you feel, when really I don't even know the first thing about loss.

Because I have no idea what it means to lose a father, to have someone you love dearly die.

At this, words elude me and I have no idea what I can offer. And I have come to believe that it is in these moments, where there is really nothing to be said. Words can do marvelous things but in some situations, there isn’t a word or a neatly constructed sentence in the world that can lessen the pain, change the situation or make it any better. It is in these moments when it seems that there is no perfect way to be- that there is no right way of orchestrating my words or actions. And so in the midst of the not-knowing and the pain that lingers so tangibly you feel you could reach out and touch it with your finger tips, right there- you just are.

You wade through the silence beside your friend. Maybe you take their hand and hold it firmly, or place a gentle hand on their shoulder, a simple gesture just so they know you are there and aren’t going anywhere. Or other times, you just sit or stand with them and you don’t leave. You stay firmly planted beside them as they try to make sense of the grief.

Moments like these, you just are.

Grief is a strange thing. It is a heavy cloud that looms over, changing from day to day, even moment to moment. Some days she is right with me laughing and talking in the same old familiar way we have, and other days I can see how the grief lingers heavy. Her eyes tell me more than her words; they crinkle with hurt and hold all the unanswered questions. But how to navigate the cloud of grief? She asks, maybe not in so many words, but she wonders about how to mourn or feel or how much to try to move on. And I don’t know anymore than she does, probably even less.

C.S Lewis writes in A Grief Observed:
“Aren’t all these notes the senseless writings of a man who won’t accept the fact that there is nothing we can do with suffering except to suffer it?”

The only way to navigate that cloud of grief is through. All one can do is keep walking, keep on voyaging forward. Through the confusion, through the pain, through the sorrow, through the deep emotion. Eventually one will arrive at a place where the sky is a little more clear, a little brighter. Where things will make a bit more sense, or at least, there will be an acceptance of the not understanding.

Then, in those times- when words have lost their power and frankly, you have no idea what you could possibly do to help the cloud of grief disappear- just be. Because I think that is best you can do when life throws you those awful yet oddly precious moments; where you have the opportunity to stand beside those who have come face to face with the toughest of what life has to offer.

love, mikayla

Goodbyes

The tune haunts me as it plays it’s way through my mind.

It taunts me, “why do all good things come to an end, come to an end?” That old Nelly Furtado song.

It’s true.
Why does it seem that everything good and beautiful comes to an end?

I’ve asked this question a lot this year. As everything is changing and people are leaving, I’m being thrown into a new season of life whether I’m ready for it or not. Sometimes change happens so slowly, so gradually, that you hardly even notice things becoming different. But then, sometimes change happens so fast. And all of a sudden you feel like you’re thrust into something you don’t quite feel ready for. This is how I felt about graduating.

I wasn’t ready to leave, I wasn’t ready to say goodbye. I love my high school; with it’s carpeted floors stained with the footprints of all the people I had spent the last four years with and it’s concrete walls enclosing the countless memories of those years. After I walked across that stage in my blue gown and graduation cap, the tassel waving around my face, the last few weeks went by so fast. I remember blinking, and then all of a sudden, I found myself on the last day of school scribbling words into yearbooks- Knowing this was the final signing. And I was right there, trying somehow to capture all of the last four years and all I wanted to say to people about who they are and about their future, into one tiny paragraph in the corner of the page. That day was a celebration for most, but no, not for me. I was close to tears that day, as I was forced to say far too many goodbyes knowing that no matter what I wrote or they wrote about keeping in touch or “hanging out,” I really wouldn’t see most of these people again.

I wonder why I find it such a harsh reality. I think it is because the saying goodbye – the moving on from a place you have invested so much of your heart in and have come to cherish and love – that seems to be the way of life.

We go wonderful places, experiences marvellous things, meet beautiful people and then we have to leave. Maybe we go to camp for the summer or to Europe to travel or work at Starbucks for a year or attend University for four years or live in this house or spend 10 years volunteering at a orphanage or spend one blissful summer day at the lake. No matter what it is, one day, just like that, we will leave these things behind and move on to something else.

Its hard because I know that this is something that will never change. When I think of the future, where I might go and who I might meet, I know I’ll have to say more goodbyes. The more I do and the more I invest, the more I have to leave behind.

In some moments I so desperately wish I could freeze the world, and stay exactly where I am and keep everything exactly how it is. I wish I could stay there for as long as I would like, until I am finally ready to move on. Why does it so often feel like we are ripped away from something, taken away before we are ready to leave?

As I’ve been thinking about all of this, I came across a post from one of my favorite blogs out there (thewildlove). What I came across was this:

I think that’s the way of the world, the way that I have trouble with – that what we cherish we must somehow release.
I remembered that the act of holding is, must be, an act of release.

It really is the way of the world. But I will tell you something I have come to find- I’ll stand firm, look you in the eye, and I tell you with vibrant honesty – that I am glad that it is hard. I have learned to be okay, even be grateful for the tough goodbyes. The hard indicates so much to the beautiful truth: that I have loved deeply that which I tearfully say goodbye to. I wouldn’t want it any other way. I aspire to be blessed enough to go somewhere, to do things, to meet people, that break my heart to leave.

Reading my own words, it does sounds a little backwards. But oh it is true. I believe it’s one of the most difficult parts of life: the loving and the letting go. But I have been learning that we can not live in a place where we live desperate to try and hold on to things of the past. If we attempt to hold people too close or cling too much to what has past, we forget to live in the now.

As much as I dread the leaving, the hard goodbyes – I want to be someone who invests in people, who pours out her heart to each place she goes. I want to be someone who keeps giving and loving, even if when she does it will make the eventual goodbye more painful. To love enough that the goodbye hurts- that is something to treasure.

love, mikayla